Wall of Love

Video transcript: Hi Lee, Good almost afternoon from Tokyo. This is Farah. It's snowing a lot outside, so I'm getting this nice natural lighting. I decided to film this response video in the gym in my share house, because this is the place where all of this destruction began, but also where all this healing has begun and will continue. So I'm just going to go down the list of things for the response. So it's so interesting how I came across your videos. Actually, Sorry, it's so interesting how I came across your videos because. It was on my feed randomly when I was doom scrolling on Instagram in maybe August or September. No, I think it was August. It has to be August. And back then I didn't have the vocabulary to really pinpoint what was happening to me. And it's so funny how the Instagram algorithm kind of works because before when I was being love bombed by my trainer, I got a lot of tarot reading videos and I'm pretty sure maybe the other people you speak to, maybe they've had similar experiences. So when I was being love bombed, I would get lots of tarot reading videos that said, well actually it was so funny, I think most of them said, oh, this person is for you, or this person will confess to you. This person kills you, da da da da. And I kind of believed them. But there were like one or two videos that was like, watch out for this person. So lots of tarot reading videos, lots of videos about how to tell if a guy likes you or when he likes you, that kind of stuff. And I feel like the videos that pop up on my algorithm personally, they're just for how I'm perceiving things rather than the reality of it. So in August and September, especially when my narcissist basically discarded me or was discarding me in real time, I started understanding what was happening to me and started thinking, hey, this is wrong. And that's when on Instagram, that's when your videos and videos from other users talking about similar topics would pop up. Like, I honestly I'd like to think of myself as a well read person when it comes to psychology and the human condition. But while I was aware of the term narcissism and being grandiose and the looking at narcissism, I had no idea that covert narcissism is a thing. Because I think one of the reasons why I had such doubts about even thinking that he was being malicious or anything was because it was so covert. You know, like a lot of these covert narcissists, they Walk among us. And I think what I got from watching your videos especially is this ever growing gift of discernment. Like now when I'm surrounded by 160 people at my house, you know, I kind of sit back and I kind of watch everything unfold and I start to think what their intentions are with their actions, not necessarily what they say. So that's been really helpful. Like I didn't know about Jade or Darbo or anything like that because this is not something I would even look up. Right. Like, how could I look these things up? So basically, I think one of the first videos I saw from you was probably a skit. Oh, I think it was a skit where you were acting like someone who didn't remember anything, which is exactly what happened to me. And I remember watching your video thinking like, wait a day, a minute, that's what happened to me. That's what happened to me. This is the thing, this is the thing. I was, I was losing my mind. Like I was literally losing my mind when he kept saying, I don't remember. Even amongst my friends, like we have this inside joke where we say, oh, I don't remember, I don't remember anything in like a British accent to make fun of what was happening. But yeah, I actually didn't know that this was a tactic until I saw your skit. So I think the main thing that could help. Sorry, I'm like answering, I think the third question first. I think what would help people especially is these skit videos. Because if it wasn't for the skits, I don't think I would have ever come across your videos. No way. Because I wouldn't have had the vocabulary to articulate what was happening. Right. But I did have first hand experience of what was said to me and what was done to me. So going off on skits especially, I think that's very, very reassuring and very, very. I watched your video so many times. I also showed your video to my best friend, the guy in his friend. And it goes without saying, but this was so brilliantly worded, it was so concise. It helped me perceive the situation in a way that I had not really thought of before in such a refreshing new way. So yeah, I think I'm very grateful for this chance to have this, this video from you because I think it's very important. Like, I think a lot of people, they underestimate how impactful social media could be in a positive way. I think social media just makes things a lot more accessible to us now. And I know of Course, like, you're not a licensed psychologist and you might not personally know me, but, you know, that doesn't make you less qualified to evaluate the situation and give me really, really wonderful advice and practical advice for sure, to help me process this. You know, I think it's a very important supplement to my healing journey, for sure. What did I write down? Sorry, I'm always taking notes. I really liked what you said about the fuel. I. I definitely think that in the beginning, my fuel was like, moving on from an ex and like all this stuff. And that influenced very heavily how I perceived my trainer as a savior. And even now, like, that's how I kind of look at these things, but I'm working on that for sure. Crossing the boundaries. It was very reassuring when you reassured me that, like, it was obviously crossing boundaries when he did this and that and the other, the reputation protection. I heard from your other videos as well. I think that was definitely my situation as well. On steroids. Oh, the emotional whiplash. That was one thing that I was so impressed by with your video because I had never heard that term before, but it was the perfect analogy for what happened and what it, you know, why these feelings haven't fully left me yet. So, yeah, I think it was also very reassuring to hear that, you know, it is understandably difficult to completely remove these feelings all at once because it does take time. Because when I would talk to my friends, for example, and I have seen a therapist about this as well, like, a lot of my friends are like, oh, he's married, end of story. And that's not the end of the story. Or some of my friends, and they weren't being malicious or anything, but they were like, oh, well, he's a bad person. Why do you have these feelings? It was a lot of whys and not a lot of hows. And I think same thing with my therapist. My therapist is good. I'm glad I saw her. But again, I was being told a lot of whys and not and a lot of what's but not a lot of hows. And I think your video gave me the hows I needed to move on. So taking away from this, I feel very reassured. And I wrote all the things he actually is on my notes app and I'm side eyeing my housemates a lot. I was already doing that, but the lizard analogy cracked me up so much. Like, that was such a good analogy. But yeah, thank you again for making the video. I wish you all the best in helping everybody else online or offline with what they're going through and their traumas and yeah, thank you so much. I can imagine, I can only imagine how difficult it must be living as a narcissist because I especially watched from one of your videos and other people's videos too that maybe deeptown, you know, nurses need all that supply because they feel maybe empty inside or something like that. I'm not saying you feel that way, but just in general it sounds like a nightmare to live with every day, especially because that's the embodiment of your being. So I'm really amazed how you kind of you reconciled with this and you're healing, you're helping so many people in the world, healing with firsthand experience and knowledge of such a difficult and stigmatized thing like mental health. So yeah, I'm really grateful for all that you do and I will continue to support all your videos and yeah, I hope you have a great day. Thank you. Bye.

Video transcript: Hello, my legal name is Renee Lavoie, but I otherwise go by Velvet angel. And I have been. Gosh, I've been in contact with Lee for probably a couple years now. I. He genuinely is the person that got me to understand my experiences that kept me from going back to a horrifically abusive relationship with a sociopathic narcissist. He is also supporting me along my journey of escaping my abusive household. And genuinely, without his insight and without his help and just like, he's very, very grounding, like, I would not be escaping currently. That is where I am right now. I am currently escaping. So genuinely, I walk around recommending Lee to everybody that I encounter. Pretty much I preach about him on my. On my TikTok lives. Like, I mention him in my videos all the time. Like, he's. He's amazing and has positively impacted and changed my life in ways that I genuinely do not think that I would be alive today without him and his work. And now with his one on ones, which I originally was like, oh, yeah, I probably won't need that. Like, he has great resources anyway. He's got the videos and he's got the mental healers, which I've been a part of for two years now. And, you know, there's the Sunday zoom calls and all that. And. Nope. I came to a point in my life where I was like, no, actually the one on ones would be extremely helpful. And I'd say, honestly, rates are very fair, especially being in the mental healers and having access to that, having like a special, like, price for being a member. Um, but yeah, genuinely, if you are in any kind of abusive situation, looking just to get insight, advice, help, clarity, anything, leaves the person to go to. I've seen tons of other resources that are, frankly, they're not good in many ways, but no, Leah is the person to go to. So if you're thinking about it, rip the band aid off. Just do it, because this, this man is fantastic at what he does and he can absolutely help you too. I hope that you get as much help and clarity and comfort as I have. Stay safe and you got this.

Video transcript: I spoke with Lee hammock on Friday, April 17, in the evening, and it was overall a really good experience. We did a phone call, not a video call. So I'll start off with this. I could hear all the rustling in the background, so sometimes it was hard for me to hear, so I had to really focus. So I think he was doing other things while speaking, so that was a little bit challenging. But when he stopped, I could hear him very clearly. He's very attentive to listening to his client, and I really like that. As well as giving some very insightful things, like also seeing a therapist and some of what he's saying, even though he's not a therapist. Lee is not a therapist. That he was kind of saying similar things that she has been. She said to me not a lot of things, but just one or two things because she didn't want to diagnose the person that dealing with. I think one of my biggest thing was to reframe. I have a hard time forgiving myself and reframing things to make it more positive and realizing that I am human. I'm closing my eyes because I'm thinking of the things that I'd like to say. So for me, I had to. Even today when I was driving, I was having these thoughts that popped in my mind, and I had to think like, okay, I am human. These are normal thoughts. What can I do with them? And kind of move from that point and try to find a positive way to deal with it and try to realize this person isn't for me and figure out and remember all the negative things this person has done. So I think Lee has did a good job with my interview. Would I use them again? Definitely. And his personality is great, and he's very caring. So thanks, Lee. I appreciate it.

Video transcript: Talking to a real narcissist was great. If I could say anything, it would. I would say, offer more personal feelings. Feelings like that you have, that narcissists have, because we don't understand them. They're foreign to us. But thank you is great. Bye.